Cubby is going through a miserable phase at night (and nap time...and at any other time where it involves leaving the "party" and going to sleep)! Last night we did the whole let-him-cry thing and I sat and bawled outside his room in between my re-assuring visits. They say don't pick him up when you go in but they also say calm him down--in our case, one cannot happen without the other. The compromise we reached is going in and holding him but not leaving his room--I think it made a difference because at least he didn't try to squirm out of our arms. One time I got him to fall asleep but he woke up as soon as I set him in his crib and he went crazy all over again! I hate putting him in his crib after he falls asleep because then he wakes up and freaks out that he's not in our bed. He's super clingy to me anyway right now so is this just an all-around phase? He used to be the perfect sleeper! I know this will be an investment of time and patience, but like I said, the crying-it-out method is awful! What do I do???!!!! I'm so desperate. Please advise.
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Sorry, but I sympathize with Cubby. I couldn't get to sleep last night either and I would have cried and cried if someone had made me just lay in bed and stare at the ceiling!
Thanks, sweet, wise[fill-in-the-blank] one who birthed me (and who also, truth be known, probably let me cry-it-out a time or two...)
After talking to a couple of "experts" today, we're going strong--cold turkey, let him cry, etc. Twice today it's taken exactly a 1/2 hour of him bawling before he drifted traumatically off to sleep--bedtime now, and he's been bawling for 23 minutes..I can hear him losing steam...or is that his voice he's losing?
It's 1am. He cried for an HOUR AND A HALF before I caved. Have you ever cried for an hour and a half solid? He was like a little zombie. When I went in there he was standing up and his head was resting on the rail. I started to cry and then spent the next 10 minutes apologizing. Still determined to not "undo" what I hadn't already undone (?) I had James move the crib into our room. Hey, it's a step...baby steps.
Solution: send Cubby to me and I'll personally train him to sleep in his own bed. (I'm so cruel!) I'm proud of you for trying so hard, Abs! Baby steps are good!
Oh...I hurt, I hurt, I hurt for you!! I read all the Babywise stuff before Annie was born, determined to start off on the "right" foot of not rocking her to sleep and having her sleep in her own room, and after her first night home, I just couldn't do it. I rock her to sleep every night. We just moved her to her own room last week, but it's still hard for me to resist pulling her in bed with me in the mornings. I don't know what the answer is, Abs. It has been my biggest delimma almost since I got pregnant. Do tell me how it turns out.
Poor Cubby! Poor Abby! I have no wise answers for either of you. It's a hard dilemma and only you can decide the best course...I trust you.
I am paying very close attention to all of this, Abby S and I will be in your shoes soon...
Hang in there Abby, You are a good mom. I always loved the Pediatrican who told me I just had to let Rich cry himself to sleep and not go in and get him. I said, Great you come over and take care of his 4 brothers and sisters he has cried awake in the middle of the night. There is no easy solution. just keep loving them
I guess it doesn't help your drive to go through with it to mention that the romper he has on makes him look like an inmate in some sort of buttery yellow prison cell...just a thought. I'm kidding--stick with it because in just a day or two you will be amazed at what a good little goer-to-bed he is!
PS If you need to step out while he is crying, bring me ice cream, you know what I like.
I am happy to report to everyone that last night was a success. It was not easy by any means but I have faith. We are on our way. Thanks for your support!
Congrats Abby! I always really really really hate having my children cry to sleep. It is torture-- for me not them. Sometimes I feel bad for them, sometimes I want to sell them to the gypsies! It all depends on how much they kept me up the night before! I just wish we could see that little one in person some time!
Hooray for Cubby and Abby! (and James...I'm sure he was also involved!) I prayed extra hard that night for you. :)
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